First off, I must note that I understand that some men and women do not wish to own a gun. Some do not have the sudden urge to hug fluffy bunnies and spread world peace in a frivolous manner like I do when my fingers are wrapped around a Walther PPK, or when my hands are embracing an H&K VP9. This blog post is in no way an attack on them. Well, truth be known, I may not personally understand their reasoning, but I respect their choice. That said, I do believe that if you label yourself a feminist and fight against gun rights, you’re a blazing hypocrite. If you make the choice to forgo gun ownership, that’s fine… Heck, if you make the choice to arm yourself with a stuffed animal walrus named Peanut, I frankly do not care. However, if you want to say you believe in the equality of women, yet fight to remove the most successful way of making the fight for women’s safety a fair one, your ideals are antithetical and that’s when I care, because your opinions are no longer just making you look silly by carrying around Peanut, it’s putting me in danger too.
Before I get to the meat of the post, I’d like to address something that someone told me this week during a discussion about women and weapons. This kind liberal eluded to the idea that women can’t be trusted with guns… See, liberals might pretend like they think you’re equal, but in reality, you’re a 1920’s housewife pretending to play with grownups in their eyes. My liberal acquaintance then said, “You know, you didn’t strike me as the violent type.” This type of reaction always astounds me. I am gentle in nature, I don’t even hunt (yes, I still support hunters). I cried when my desperate attempts to live trap mice resulted in a reproduction catastrophe that required me to purchase kill traps. I’m not a violent person. I’m also not a stupid person. I know that while I might not be violent, those that might wish to harm me most likely are, and I’m pretty sure we possess contradicting convictions.
I have past blogs that have focused on the failures of gun control, as well as posts directed towards female empowerment, and how the left has destroyed true feminism. This post is like the love child of those previous posts. It is directed towards women, and the urge to write this came after reading quite a few disturbing stories this week, as well as some inspirational news concerning women who are finally standing up and saying that they’ve had enough of being patronized. In addition, after receiving heavy opposition, the Texas Senate approved a bill allowing licensed carriers on government property, including the state’s public college and university campuses. It’s about time. It’s also about time for the rest of us to not shy away from the fact that women should be concerned about gun rights even more so than men, and men who claim to support women should be shouting their support from the roof tops.
One of the disturbing stories that made the contents of my lunch hint at an evacuation was concerning a 17 year-old man who was being charged with kidnapping a 10 year-old girl. He was simply a friend of the family who had developed an unhealthy obsession with the girl, which was followed by stomach turning plans to sexually abuse her before snuffing out her life and photographing her body. Thankfully, the little girl was saved before he was able to finish what he had started. In another startling story, a woman was attacked and had her unborn child cut out of her body.
I bring these stories up because in the last week I have had 3 different conversations concerning women and guns. Fairly heated conversations, to be quite honest. I’m fairly passionate about this topic, and become infuriated when men try to tell me why women (and men, but today we are focusing on women) should not have the right to own a gun. My temper then receives a shot of caffeine when women and men tell me that arming women is somehow feeding a rape culture, that we need to teach men not to rape, not teach women how to protect themselves. They tell me that pens, mace, and using vomit or bodily fluids to “gross out” the offender is the answer; those options aren’t degrading at all, right?! But you see, the 10 year-old little girl in the story above was not the victim of rape culture, she was the victim of a psychopath. She was the victim of a selfish individual with a depraved mind. She was the victim of proclivities that were born in the darkest corners that are located near the pit of hell. She was not the victim of “rape culture,” she was the victim of a certain breed of subhuman that has existed since the dawn of time. She was the victim of a young man that shares a commonality with the monsters that we find in horror movies and nightmares. No, this young 10 year-old girl could not protect herself with a gun, but the point is that the idea that we can purge depraved individuals from society by “teaching them not to rape” is an ideal based in a land born of fairy tales and children’s books.
Bad people exist. Bad people will always exist.
Back in October of 2007, Amanda Collins was attacked in a parking garage after leaving class. This particular parking garage was chosen by a very careful Collins because she felt she would be safe. This garage housed the campus police cruisers, and the campus police were roughly 100 feet away. She was guarded and careful, stating that she had actually taken martial arts classes before attending college. She took every precaution, even down to approaching her car at an angle to ensure that no one was hiding beneath. Even after taking such precautions, she was brutally raped at gun point in that parking garage, and her attacker would go on to make national news after he was found guilty of the highly publicized rape and murder of 19 year-old Brianna Denison, who disappeared in January of 2008. Denison was stolen as she slept on the couch in her friend’s home. Brianna’s body was found in February, she had been brutally raped and murdered then disposed of carelessly in a field, treated as garbage. During the trial, the defense argued against the death penalty due to the fact that before the crimes her attacker, James Biela, was a productive member of society.
Side note: I’m left befuddled when people use the “once a productive member of society” excuse in such cases. If you steal a soda, feel free to claim that you were simply desperate and once a productive member of society, not when you kidnap, rape, and murder another human being.
Biela knew that what he was doing was wrong, just as the 17 year-old who had heinous plans for a 10 year-old knew that what he was doing was wrong. They did not broadcast their plans, they did not think themselves innocent of wrong doing. They didn’t stroll into homes saying, “Hey everyone, I’m going to go ahead and take your daughter. Cool?” They did not need to be taught not to rape, they did not need a lesson on why it’s bad to suffocate the life out of another human being, and they did not need to “learn” why it’s bad to pin a woman down and disregard her rights. Lessons on a woman’s worth would have fallen on deaf ears because the facts are, they’re bigger, and they’re more powerful, and well, they’re not playing with a full deck of cards. They did not need a speech on equal rights from Emma Watson, they weren’t simply guys who had failed to see that bureaucrats in their ivory towers protected by armed guards had signed a piece of paper that made laws protecting women against violence, they did not listen as celebrities preached on peace and love. They had evil intentions, and they preyed on those that aren’t guarded in the ivory towers, on those that don’t walk into a room protected by security guards. No, they preyed on women, like myself, who are left to protect themselves. Those of us that are smaller and weaker than the opposite sex, those of us who are not trained in combat techniques, those of us who are the target of sexual crimes over 90% of the time (and remember that the majority of sexual crimes on men happen via prison rape), we are the ones that watch our backs daily. Not the elitist celebs, not the bureaucrats, and not liberal men.
We have to be careful where we park at the mall. Is it by a light? Is it by a popular entrance?
We have to be careful when we leave work at night.
We wait for a large group of people to leave so that we aren’t alone.
We make sure that we are home from our walk or run before dark.
We are the ones that hear a class time and think, “where’s the safest place for me to park.”
We are the sex that walk into empty public bathrooms at night and rush, and that’s after scanning the area for nefarious individuals to begin with.
We are the ones that know a police car isn’t fast enough to stop a psychopath from ruining our lives.
Why? Because we have to, because we are the demographic most likely to be a victim. But there is one important part to the story of Amanda Collins and Brianna Denison that was left out of my rather brief synopsis. Amanda Collins had a handgun in her home that she was trained to use, actually, she was a CCW license holder. Brianna Denison was slaughtered, and Amanda Collins was brutally raped because Amanda Collins was a law abiding citizen and did not carry her weapon in a gun free zone. Amanda Collins was raped at gun point between two vehicles, 100 feet away from campus security, in a gun free zone. Biela went on to rape again, and also murder Denison when – quite possibly – his life and reign of terror could have been ended by a trained Amanda Collins in a parking garage. Amanda Collins was confident in saying that had she been armed, she would have had the opportunity to stop Biela, and Brianna could be alive today in a career, or starting a family, living the life that was stolen from her. Liberals are convincing you to vote for them under the guise that they can take you to some wonderland where birth control flows like a rushing river. A place where all psychopaths have a change of heart and see you as a person, and not as an item. A place where you are paid more than men, and the guy on the corner of the street pays attention to your brain and not the shape of your other features. But that wonderland does not exist, instead, they push agendas that leave Amanda Collins unprotected in a parking garage with a man that violates her, forever changing who she is.
Now, some might argue that in the United States we have a higher number of rapes, which contradicts the idea that guns save women a lifetime of trauma, or a lifetime lost. Then they’ll smugly sit back and act as though they have dealt the fatal blow to your argument. It is at this point that I encourage woman to fully understand the incredibly important differences between the US and the UK. Definitions. Our criminal system encompasses a large variation of crimes under broad descriptions. I actually had a discussion concerning the various criminal definitions on a Facebook thread a couple months ago and realized that I had never blogged about this little detail. So, in the US, you meet a drunk girl at the bar and take her home, if she doesn’t appreciate your savvy pick-up tactics during her inebriated state the next morning, it is defined as rape. If you are 18 and have consensual sex with a girl 1 year younger, and Daddy gets mad, it is rape, and you spend your life on a sexual offender registry. Crime definitions per country are vastly different, and it is almost impossible to get an accurate comparison. By far, the US has more blanketed definitions, which leads to our higher crime rate. Yes, we have a lot of crime, but it’s silly for people in the UK to look down on the US from some high horse, acting as though they live in a crime free utopia.
If you look under the UK legal definition, they are very strict on what they consider to be “rape,” yet the US – as mentioned above – has a much broader definition. I won’t go into incredibly graphic detail (you can research yourself), rape in the UK is defined by simply a forceful penetration of one person on another, the legal definition of rape in the US includes anyone who commits an unwanted sexual attack. This includes threats, coercion, picking up a drunk girl, sexual attack with an item, statutory, etc. If you tell a girl that you love her to coerce her into bed, you’ve committed rape in the US, and if she reports it, it goes in the stats even if you don’t face conviction. The UK has not evolved with other countries in this aspect. Additionally, it’s still difficult to calculate because the vast majority of sexual abuse goes unreported in both countries. Not only is the definition for rape different, so is the definition for murder. Homicides in the UK are calculated differently. Since 1967, the UK calculations exclude any cases that do not result in conviction, nor any cases prosecuted under the grounds of self-defense. We do. If Chicago alone – where MANY homicides go unsolved – were not calculated, we would not have as high of a number either. This goes for self-defense as well. They are both calculated into our numbers. Perspective: in 2012 we had 14,827 homicides, only 7,133 arrests were made for those homicides. The number of convictions are even less. SO, If we JUST went by that one change alone, our murder rate would be easily cut in half.
So you see, if we calculated rape and homicides in the same manner, our stats would be ridiculously lower. Now, consider the fact that the UK has a population of 64.1M, and the US has a population of 316.1M, and suddenly their figures look a lot scarier than ours. I’ve heard of stories where widows in the UK will not place obituaries in papers out of fear that it is basically an invitation for robbers that now know she is alone in a house or flat without a man to protect her. Guess what, I’m alone in my house most of the time, without a man, and I dare someone to disregard my ability to protect myself as they do to women in the UK. To the point, women face a higher risk in countries where guns are not the prime tool of protection. The numbers on paper only serve those who push an agenda, because we do not calculate crimes in the same fashion. If you’re arrested for drunk driving, you could easily walk away with a handful of charges in the US, a handful of different crimes that you have committed. This is why our total crimes are higher, but their number of victims is much higher, and that’s just going with the numbers that they actually include in their statistics. Our crime rate has dropped drastically just in the last 30 years, it has been cut in half in some areas. Gun ownership, on the other hand, is at an all-time high. Women are getting smart, women are realizing that being trained with a weapon is what gives us the edge. Will it save every woman every time? Don’t be silly, no one claims that… But it will save most women most of the time considering sexual offenders themselves say that the very hint that a woman has a gun makes them seek out someone else. Guns are a darn good deterrent, which is reflected in the drop in crime. So why let bureaucrats dangle a fake utopia in front of your face while simultaneously trying to remove the one thing that IS working? It’s good to remember that we are surrounded by good people, but we should also be prepared for the bad…
Women should know the facts, we shouldn’t just smile and nod when someone puts a handy phone up on campus while they pretend like it’s going to do us any good, like women can just say, “Hold that thought, Jeffrey Dahmer, I need to go over there and use the phone that those swell administrators put up for moments like this.” Because we all know that those morally sound psychopaths normally give women a phone-a-friend before making them a statistic. We shouldn’t agree with a man that hands us a ballpoint pen to use as protection against an attacker, and we should ask if that man would give his own daughter a ballpoint pen as a means of protection. We as women should not sit idly by while bureaucrats legislate our safety and have the audacity to tell us to pee ourselves to deter potential rapists. And the women that push such degrading ideals onto other women should have to turn in their feminist card to be burned and buried, never to be resurrected.
Now, speaking to my fellow ladies, the fact that liberals can tell you that we just need to “teach men not to rape” and you believe them, well, it doesn’t speak well for our sex. We can’t be that disjointed from reality, right? Right?! I guess after making you believe that women are paid less, they actually thought they could get away with something so outlandish. We owe it to ourselves, as women, to support one another in the fight for personal protection, even if you yourself decide that carrying a gun is not something you want to do. Now, I want you to think about this: If I know how the UK calculates rape and homicide rates, and I know that those in office must be educated enough to know the same, mull over the fact that they know the truth, yet they blatantly lie to you to push the agenda of disarming you. They know that you are safer with a gun, that you are less likely to be a victim when you are trained with a proper weapon, yet they lie to you in an effort to control you. Isn’t that why real feminism exists?! To fight such ridiculous notions? All over, women are starting to push back, and those opposing them are college presidents, campus police, board members, and liberal bureaucrats… So basically, all of the people that really don’t have to worry about how dark it is when they leave class are fighting to keep women as the demographic most likely to be victimized. Comforting. I guess they figure it wasn’t them that had to go casket shopping for their child, so why should they be concerned with giving potential victims the chance that Amanda and Brianna were robbed of?
Stand up and tell our government that you are more efficient in protecting yourself than they are, that you aren’t going to depend on campus security, that you aren’t going to depend on what you hope will be a fast response time from a police officer. Let our government know that you aren’t going to depend on the tolerance level that rapists might have for urine. Let our government know that you aren’t going to sell your worth for a ballpoint pen that is going to do you little good in a situation with an attacker. Let our government know that they can’t manipulate you into thinking that a phone in a parking garage is going to help you when a depraved – not misguided or unlearned, but depraved – mind has you cornered while you pray that he’s the one attacker in the history of the world that actually allows you to call 911 on him. Doesn’t it bother you that our government continues to push the idea that you should fear what predators are capable of, instead of letting predators fear what you are capable of?
But above all else, please let our government know that screaming “raping isn’t nice” doesn’t stop a predator, but a well-placed bullet does. I don’t live my life in fear, because I am capable of protecting myself. Could things outside of my control happen? Of course. But when I walk around in a parking lot at night, I have an equal chance… And isn’t it time that the feminist movement stops its archaic treatment of women? Shouldn’t they stop treating us like items and starts embracing true equality anyway? I mean, come on… stop trying to drag us back to the days when we needed the protection of a man to survive. EVOLVE already, Feminists…